No-we are not having kids

Submitted by Anonymous on 25 December, 2007 - 7:00pm.

People that have to ask again and again when we are going to have kids. If we are (which we aren't) it's none of your damn business! Do we want to discuss it with you? Um, no. Do we need to talk about why? No. Leave it alone!

Not everyone is supposed to

Submitted by Anonymous on 2 January, 2008 - 5:13pm.

Not everyone is supposed to have kids or get married. Somehow in this country it's acceptable to have a few kids who turn out to be harmful to society and get married 2 or 3 times.
Serial marrying is more acceptable than not getting married at all? What a joke.

Kids

Submitted by GBS on 30 December, 2007 - 5:41pm.

It is pathetic...
The ones living in a single wide trailer are pumping them out, while the couple living in the nice house on the hill are still living in a nice house on the hill. The single wide thinks everyting that moves on the prop-er-tee is a food source. The couple on the hill goes out to dinner every other night.
It is just so wrong on so many levels.

I totally understand !

Submitted by Anonymous on 28 December, 2007 - 11:23pm.

The reason why I don't have much friends here, is because all the people our age are full of kids... and there is ALWAYS the stupid question of "WHEN ARE YOU HAVING KIDS?" omg It's frustrating.... so we have decided to reply (even though its not true): "I'm esterile" so that they can feel awkward about a "sensitive" topic.

Personal decisions... they are PERSONAL! And for some reason I can't stop thinking there is a very tiny little slight ounce of envy in that question... is more like,,,"when are you having kids and stop enjoying life and devote yourselves to some brats who might not thank you enough for all your efforts?, why don't you contribute with the overpopulation like we are?...why don't you join the slavery? its fun!"
I know having kids is a blessing, and a lot of fun... but so it is to NOT have kids... when you do it for a conscious reason.

"When are you going to have kids?" AARGH

Submitted by Commonsense on 30 December, 2007 - 9:54am.

I completely agree that it is wrong to ask someone when they are going to have children or when they are going to make any other personal decision in their lives. It's just plain rude, but that doesn't seem to stop a lot of people. Maybe instead of "I'm sterile," you could say "I'm unable to have children," which is closer to the truth, since you are just not able to believe it's a good choice for you.

A lot of people define themselves by the fact that they are parents, and the question "When are you going to have children" probably translates - most of the time - to "when are you going to be like us?"

I probably would have had children if I'd ever seen any happy parents, but I never did.

Never seen any happy parents?

Submitted by Anonymous on 31 December, 2007 - 2:32am.

Perhaps you are confusing what appears to be unhappy with tired. I have two kids and my wife and I are very happy to have them...and very tired too. Nothing like coming home from a full time (and then some) job to another full time job.

But IMHO it's all quite worth it.

Unhappy parents

Submitted by Commonsense on 1 January, 2008 - 4:35pm.

Well of course I don't know what you parents are feeling on the inside, do I? But I don't see signs of happiness. Go to a mall, look around. No one who has kids with them looks happy. Maybe they just hide their joy really well?

I applaud you kidless couples.....

Submitted by Anonymous on 29 December, 2007 - 1:29pm.

I applaud you.So many people have kids b/c they think it's the thing to do,or because thier parents want grandkids,or God forbid by mistake.I do have children ,by choice, and I have taught my children(teenagers)that when they grow up to think long and hard about having children, and to do it ONLY if they are really prepared and really want to.It is a very personal choice. We have friends who have decided not to have kid's and although it is against society's "norm",they are very happy, and do not have children that sre suffering because they just kinda wanted them. I admire and respect them.

So...

Submitted by Anonymous on 26 December, 2007 - 12:14pm.

... when are you having kids?