After three years

Submitted by orioles35 on 20 December, 2005 - 3:14pm.

My wife ignores me, has gained 40 pounds and shows no interest in sex whatsoever. Also, she dislikes being a Stepmother and would prefer to be in social settings, watch TV, sleep or be by herself instead of engaging in any one-on-one activities with me.

For some reason I thought

Submitted by orioles35 on 15 December, 2006 - 5:28pm.

For some reason I thought about this site today, and for an even stranger reason feel as though I should update this.
She's now gained 75 pounds and weighs more than me.
Haven't had sex in 13 months.
Counseling did no good.
Money in savings is gone, including over 5K in bonus money in JUST Sept/Oct.
Divorce will be final in mid-February. Can't wait.

Been over a year since my

Submitted by orioles35 on 27 December, 2007 - 12:31pm.

Been over a year since my last update.

Divorce wasn't final in February, went to mediation in February, followed up by a dishonest report filed with the police accusing me of domestic abuse. The authorities saw through it, and I left the house immediately afterwards. House sold in June, alimony is finished by the end of 2008.

Started dating a wonderful woman who is affectionate, appreciative, accepting, we travel well together (9 hour drive to Cleveland), work out together, she watches my hockey games, I watch her softball games and loves me for me. She fills all my needs and I do the same for her. I might have to put up with child support for another 12 1/2 years, but life is GREAT now.

After Three Years

Submitted by MTdoMTdont on 27 December, 2005 - 2:15pm.

First thing is tell her what's bothering you. It does appear that your wife may be depressed. Nothing to be ashamed of since many times depression may be a chemical imbalance in the brain. A professional counselor can help both of you with this issue and also give you tools to enrich your marriage. Metabolism may also cause excessive weight gain. As to why she doesn't "like being a stepmom" that's something you both have to work out. Good luck and God bless.

Get out! Take it from a

Submitted by gerber on 25 December, 2005 - 12:03pm.

Get out! Take it from a woman whose on her 4th husband, keep trying and you'll find the right person to spend your life with! forget the embarrassment/ angst/ hassle of divorce and get excited about what new relationship could be in your future!
MY added grip is people who stay miserable, and make others miserable as a result.
Life is short! Live it LARGE!

Been two years since this

Submitted by orioles35 on 27 December, 2007 - 5:42pm.

Been two years since this comment was posted and I've come back to it time and time again. Weird.

I'm glad to hear you are happy now Orioles35

Submitted by allen on 28 December, 2007 - 3:16pm.

And that you keep coming back to see how your grievances continue to inspire the world.

If I can help just one person...

Submitted by orioles35 on 28 December, 2007 - 5:24pm.

...then that'll be enough.

OK, I just threw up a little in my mouth after typing that.

Do yourself a favor--get out

Submitted by J on 25 December, 2005 - 12:00pm.

Do yourself a favor--get out now. You can do much better than this.

Hmmmm...

Submitted by joyjoy4festivus on 24 December, 2005 - 9:50am.

Sorry!
First of all, I wonder why she married in the first place, knowing that she was going to be a stepmother. If it's obvious to the child, that would be a shame. It doesn't sound like either one of you is happy.
Don't knock the 40lb thing. Some of us bigger girls can be phreaks! (j/k).
All kidding aside, those are symptoms of depression, darlin.
She's probably disgusted with herself and her weightgain, so don't take the sexual rejection personally. I know that it's difficult and it's easier said than done.
If you love her, get help - together.
If you don't want to deal with it and it is hurting your child, move on.
Life is too short to be unhappy.
JMO

I love this place!
Hilarious!

Done it, done it, DONE IT

Submitted by orioles35 on 28 December, 2005 - 9:12am.

Let's see. We've been going to counseling for four months.
Not much has changed. Frequently I'm asked if I'd like to work on this 1000 piece puzzle with her, as though that's the equivalent of an intimate evening together. Even when this lack of intimacy is brought up, nothing happens.

She is already being treated for depression.

Life doesn't have to be this f***ing difficult.

Is it worth having ANOTHER kid living outside my home?

Time to move on, my

Submitted by joyjoy4festivus on 28 December, 2005 - 9:48am.

Time to move on, my friend!
As I said, life is too short.
Don't marry the next one!

God, I love this place!
Hilarious!

Life IS too short

Submitted by orioles35 on 28 December, 2005 - 11:53am.

...but why are other people's grievances hilarious?

Dude after only 3 years and

Submitted by Santarchy on 22 December, 2005 - 12:50pm.

Dude after only 3 years and she is like this...it will not get any better unless you can find a reason why she acts like this.

You're right...

Submitted by orioles35 on 22 December, 2005 - 3:52pm.

...one word: counseling!

Maybe its you - not her.

Submitted by suzypooh on 25 December, 2005 - 3:49pm.

I have a dog that does the very same thing. Come to think of it, my cat and hampster do to. Is it me? (smelling my arm pits)

pets

Submitted by MTdoMTdont on 27 December, 2005 - 2:18pm.

that's funny. You have a great sense of humor.